Positive Affirmations: The Beginner’s Guide

Positive Affirmations The Ultimate Beginner’s Guide

Hello Beautiful Souls! Today I’m going to teach you the beautiful art of understanding and using positive affirmations in your life.

Positive affirmations added the magic back into my life. Before I started practicing them, I was alive but I was going through the motions, letting life happen to me.

Does that sound familiar?

Now, so many exciting doors have opened for me! I moved into my dream home, relocated to a place I love, I found my passion, created this blog… etc. The list goes on.

In this in-depth guide, I’ll be taking you on a journey to understanding affirmations, where they originated, how they work, and how you can use them to live the big and magical and beautiful life you deserve.

What are positive affirmations?

Positive affirmations are statements that activate your mind to change your life, one thought at a time. You repeat them daily, normally in the mirror, focusing on the areas in your life that need improvement.

  • They enable you to accomplish the things you wish to achieve. 
  • They work because each word you speak has power.
  • They allow you to program – or reprogram – your thought processes, replacing negative thoughts that don’t serve you with positive ones that do.

What are positive affirmations used for?

The first, and most common, use of  positive affirmations is to stop negative self talk

Negative self talk, also called your inner critic, are the words you say to yourself throughout the day both consciously and unconsciously. This voice is the one responsible for telling you that you are unworthy, less than, wrong, and so on.

While negative thoughts are completely normal, too many can stop you from living your life, cause anxiety, and even make you sick. 

Practicing affirmations can help ease that voice and rewire your limiting beliefs. 

The second popular use for affirmations is for manifesting what you want. Many people believe that your thoughts and words have a power that tap into the universe, allowing you to create your reality.

More on the science behind that later, but affirmations are used to get exactly what you want out of life.

What are some examples of positive affirmations?

There are many types of positive affirmations for different categories of your life. The most popular types of affirmations are:

  • Morning affirmations: To help you make the most out of every day.
  • Affirmations for self-love: To help you stop negative self-talk and embrace who you are.
  • Money affirmations: To help you attract more money into your life. 
  • Positive affirmations for women: To help women reduce the stress of societal norms and unapologetically live their best lives.
  • Health affirmations: To heal you and help you live a long and healthy life.
  • Affirmations for success: To help you find your passion in life and be the best you can at what you are great at.
  • Weight loss affirmations: To help stop unhealthy habits, lose weight, and keep it off.
  • Positive affirmations for anxiety: To help you treat and calm anxiety and live life bravely and boldly. 
  • Affirmations for confidence: To help you be more confident in any situation or in your daily life. 
  • Gratitude affirmations: To help you be thankful for what you have so you can attract more.

Here are some examples of positive affirmations:

  • I am more than enough.
  • I am the creator of my life and my destiny.
  • I am one with the Universe and the Universe supplies my every need.
  • I am confident in my skills and can overcome any challenge.

Now that you understand what positive affirmations are, let’s explore where they came from. 

The History of Positive Affirmations

Positive affirmations have historical references that span across time, religions, and continents. Many experts have different beliefs about where positive affirmations actually came from.

Beautiful Souls, upon deep research I can definitively say that they belong to no man and have no exact origin. The deeper I looked, the deeper the roots. 

For the sake of this blog, I’m going to focus on four major influences: Buddhism, Emile Coue, The New Thought Movement, and The Law of Attraction.

Buddhism and Mantras

The closest relative to positive affirmations are mantras. Mantras can be traced back to before 1000 BC to Venice Sanskrit in India.

Oxford defines a mantra as a word or phrase that is often repeated and expresses a particularly strong belief. They are considered to be very powerful, personal and sacred rituals that free one’s mind from thought.

The idea that we need to conquer and control our thoughts are exactly what positive affirmations are for. They quiet and train our inner critic, reminding us of who we really are.

Emile Coue – The Father of Affirmations

Thousands of years after the mantra was born, a French pharmacist and psychologist, Emile Coue, had an aha moment that earned him the title of The Father of Affirmations.

Dr. Coue noticed that patients who heard about the effectiveness of a drug, had better results than the ones who didn’t. 

Realizing that our thoughts become reality, he began asking patients to repeat the words, ‘Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better’.

That was the first official modern affirmation, as we know it today.

His experiments had amazing results, but only if the patient truly believed what they were saying. 

The New Thought Movement

From the Father of Affirmations, the next big moment in the history of affirmations was The New Thought Movement, a spiritual movement based on healing your mind and metaphysical ideals. 

The movement began in the US in the early 19th century and it solidified the popularity of affirmations. Hundreds of self-help, personal development, and new age books were written during these times and experts began to come forward sharing the belief that our minds and our thoughts were powerful than we knew. 

Two of those books changed it all.

The Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction and the “The Secret”, taught millions that positive affirmations aren’t just for controlling your thoughts, becoming more confident, and developing habits. They also tap into a universal power that would provide everything that we desire.

From there, positive affirmations have become universally accepted by millions of people around the world.  

Okay! We’ve learned the basics! At this point I’m sure you are wondering the same thing I did when I first started using affirmations … do they really work?

Do positive affirmations really work?

Yes. But only when paired with belief and with action.

Affirmations aren’t magic and they aren’t woo. They tap into the fabric of who we are and why we are here… to create our reality.

And the one thing in the way of us unleashing who we really are? Our brains and our inner critics. Reciting positive affirmations can help you get back in control of your life by helping your brain accept the reality you are trying to create. 

Remember Dr. Coue from earlier? His experiments proved that when we really believe in something, you will make reality… consciously or unconsciously.

The real secret is consistently reciting them and taking action. 

The action part is key. 

When you start your own affirmation practice you’ll be more present and you’ll notice things you’ve never noticed before. Your brain will start noticing opportunities to make your affirmations come to life. 

Your job is to follow those clues! Remember: Positive affirmations are a step toward change, not the change itself.

Is there science that proves this?

Yes. Outside of my own experiences, here are the most powerful pieces of scientific proof I’ve found:

The Universe is Conscious

Scientists believe that the dark matter you see in every picture of space is actually consciousness. Our Divine Source. God. That very thing that has shaped universes, worlds, and YOU. It is always expanding and creating and flowing through each of us.

They are also realizing that we may have a direct connection to that Source and the power to create and shape our reality. This is no longer hearsay, but is being studied in depth by colleges and research centers around the world.

But sadly, for many, once a thought becomes reality, we stop dreaming and visualizing and instead fixate on the struggle.

But what if you kept dreaming after birthing an idea? That’s why positive affirmations are so powerful.

Without thoughts, nothing exists.

One of the most fascinating (and mind boggling) parts of Quantum Physics is the Double Slit Experiment.

Now, I’m not a Physicist… but I’ll try to explain this the best way possible without messing it up.

Basically Physicists created a test that proved that reality is made up of multiple probabilities, until it is observed. And once observed by an observer (you), a final path is chosen.

Yes. You heard that right. Until you observe it (literally the Moon, your couch, your car, etc), it can be in multiple locations at once and/or cease to exist. Your observation of it causes it to exist in a specific location at a specific time.

Now a quick warning. This experiment could take you down the rabbit hole quickly, but before you start Googling, let’s apply this to your life. 

Your journey in this life can take you on infinite paths that lead to infinite destinations.

Without a vision, you are leaving your journey up to outside influences. Influences like the economy, or an employer, or society.

It’s the vision that you have for your life that starts your journey and chooses your destination.

It’s up to you to choose the path you want to take, and you can’t do that without seeing it.

Fear is the real enemy.

The most elite team on earth, the Navy Seals, use a visualization strategy to help cadets pass physical and mental tests.

They call it The Big Four:

  1. Goal Setting
  2. Mental Rehearsal & Visualization
  3. Positive Self Talk 
  4. Arousal Control (Breathing with long exhales)

And it worked! No extra training, just mindset work. It works because our minds don’t know the difference between something we have done and something we’ve visualized. 

The Navy Seal method subconsciously helped their recruits manage feelings of fear and anxiety allowing them to easily overcome their limiting thoughts and beliefs and pass the test. 

That’s 3 examples that prove that our thoughts are a lot more than just thoughts. They are powerful tools for creators.

Now that I’ve proved that positive affirmations work, here’s how you can develop your own daily practice. 

How to start using positive affirmations.

Step 1: Make a commitment to practice affirmations daily.

Affirmations don’t work without consistency. That’s why developing a daily ritual is so important!

First, decide how often you’ll recite your affirmations. Once a week? 3xs a week? It’s up to you! You can always adjust later.

Pick a day to start and add it to your calendar!

Second, decide when you will recite your affirmations. I suggest doing them in the morning after brushing your teeth, or some similar morning activity. 

This is called habit stacking, and it’s a habit development strategy, made popular by James Clear, Author of Atomic Habits. Basically you attach a new habit to an already established one.

But, before you start, you need to know exactly what you want out of life. 

Step 2: Get real about what you want and create a vision board.

Knowing exactly what you want out of life makes positive affirmations even more powerful. 

First, you need to get real about what’s not working.  So pull out your journal and write down all the things that are not working right now. 

Ask yourself:

  1. What’s not working in my personal life? Career? Family? Finances? Etc.
  2. Why do I want to fix these things? Do I want to fix them all? What’s the most important to fix?
  3. How will I feel once these things are solved? What physical and mental things will come into fruition?

Next, decide what you really want to fix or manifest now, and create a vision board.

I love using Pinterest for creating vision boards. You can search millions of  free pictures on stock photo sites, (like Unsplash.com or Pexels.com), and pin the to a private Pinterest board. 

Just be sure to choose photos that evoke emotions and speak to your soul! Like affirmations, vision boards are all about the feeling. 

Lastly, print it out and take it to your mirror OR take a screenshot (or two if it’s large) and save it as your wallpaper on your laptop and phone. You’ll be looking at these pictures while practicing your positive affirmations.

Speaking of affirmations, let’s talk about which ones you should use.

Step 3: Write or Choose Positive Affirmations to recite daily.

Choosing your affirmations is the most important step in your new journey. 

First, decide if you are going to write your own positive affirmations, find free ones online or purchase affirmation cards. 

Next, write, buy or collect your affirmations. I suggest you choose one affirmation for every goal on your vision board to recite daily. 

If you are buying an affirmation product, my favorite affirmation cards are the Lamare Affirmation Cards. The deck is beautiful and inspiring with affirmations for every situation.

If you are writing your affirmations, here’s a great formula you can use to get started:

I feel [emotion], and I am [action] so/because I [what you want]. 

For example: 

“I feel blessed, and am prioritizing my job search so that I find my passion and dream career.”

If you are collecting free affirmations online, search using your vision board as a guide. 

For example, if losing weight is on your vision board, search for “affirmations for weight loss”. 

You can also check out my affirmations page here.

You’ve got your affirmations! Now let’s put them into practice. 

Step 4: Start your positive affirmation practice.

It’s game time. This part is simple! On the days you’ve scheduled, wake up, look at your vision board, and recite your affirmations.

To manifest fast, here are some additional tips:

  • Say the affirmation out loud three times with confidence.
  • Visualize what you want while repeating your affirmations.
  • Feel the emotion that you will feel when it manifest.

Step 5: Let it go and act!

Now let it go! *cue Elsa. 

All jokes aside, seriously, let it go. Obsessing over an affirmation, if it’s working, and how fast it’s working does the exact opposite. Worry is just fear disguised. And you can’t manifest while living in fear. 

Next, be present and enjoy your day. You’ll know your affirmations are working if you start getting signs and opportunities.

Act on those. The action you take is what triggers the next step, and the next, and the next, until your new life has manifested.

Affirmations FAQ

Before we wrap, here are a few frequently asked questions that you might find helpful. 

What does affirming mean?

Affirming is simply the present tense verb of affirmations. The act of saying something positive. 

How do you affirm someone?

To affirm someone means to say something positive to a person about who they are, or what they’ve accomplished.

Final Thoughts

Thanks to ‘Positive Affirmations: The Definitive Beginner’s Guide’ you don’t need to Google a million things to figure out how to to get started with affirmations. You have everything you need to get started all in one place. 

As you saw in the guide, positive affirmations powerful tools to facilitate change in your life, and when you start practicing them, you’ll accommodate me than you thought possible.

Without positive affirmations, you’re basically letting life happen to you. It’s time to take back control!

Before you get started with your own practice,  make sure to leave a quick comment to let me know what you think of this guide.

Love + Light,

Positive Affirmations The Ultimate Beginner’s Guide

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